WHICH CLASS ARE YOU
What you do for a living?
Where do you work?
Where do you live?
Do you have children?
Are you married?
What are you doing this holiday?
These are the questions that are commonly asked by so many people. Have you ever taken a moment to see how irrelevant and insensitive these questions are? People ask you these questions to gauge which level or class they will put you depending on what is class to them.
In Kenya you are considered to be classy if:-
You work in the formal sector whether as a receptionist or a messenger (note-nothing wrong with these professions), all you need to say is you are going to the office lol.
You drive a car whether rental or borrowed,
You live in a good a good neighborhood, even if you are you are housed or living in single room.
You go shopping in Carrefour or eat in a mall.
I guess it is high time we started judging people for who they are or what they stand for instead of judging them with the class they fall in.
Some people are living a frugal life, not because they cannot afford to live lavishly but because they do not want to live beyond their means and desire to have savings for the future.I have been that girl who was looked down on by people at one point in my life, and honestly it does not feel good at all and it makes it a challenge to try and hustle your way out of poverty when doors are constantly being shut in your face just because people are judging you based on your“class” .
The biggest lesson I have learned along the way is that it is important to live within your means. It is also important to keep your self esteem intact because a lot of things will come your way to try and break you down. I do not believe that any one is destined to live in poverty forever just because you were born in poverty. I think with hard work, a lot of creativity and willingness to seize opportunities and to think outside the box is the recipe of helping us improve our lives no matter what challenges we face.
I can now shop in the cheapest markets because I need to save that extra coin. I buy second hand clothes, trust me not for more than Ksh.1000 and people want to know where I buy my clothes and when I tell them the truth, they are like, `The dress looks so elegant` lol. And you know what, I feel good because I do not feel the need to keep up with the joneses. I feel good because I can now choose the way I want live my life without feeling embarrassed that I will come across as unclassy.
Anyway what am trying to say is that live within your means. Relate to those that want to relate with you and never make anyone feel small. If a nanny who works in your neighborhood wants to be your friend, don’t see a nanny, see a friend. If Mama Mboga wants you to join their chama, join it if you can. Relate well with people around you, they will be the ones to respond in case of an emergency.
It’s not about what one does, it’s who they are that matters to me.