Special Valentines Day post.
I wake up on this beautiful morning in Boston. There is an energy and a buzz in the air. I check my phone and the Happy Valentines day messages ( mostly from Family, lol) start rolling in.
I blast despacito to set the mood for the day…why the hell not, right.
I remember the conversation I was having with my girl last night about us Kenyan women and matters of the heart. Our culture emphasizes that we have to please our men, you have to be a mom, caretaker and also make sure your significant other is happy. The thing no one teaches us is, how the people in our life need to treat us good and take care of us too.
A lot of us were never taught that we should enjoy intimacy, that we also have needs that need to be taken care of. We are taught how to please our men in and out of the bed. A lot of us cannot tell our men how we need to be pleased in bed, where he needs to touch, how gentle or rough we want it, but we always make sure that he gets to have his big O every time.
I know this was a huge challenge for me, expecting the other person to know what you want instead of just opening my mouth and asking lol.
Talk to me, is this an accurate assessment. I would love to hear your opinion on this.
Enjoy your Valentines day xoxo